She is really nice to you, she picks your calls and replies
your texts. Everything points to a positive future. Your plans are ripe, you
see yourself as the perfect guy for her.
You finally tell her your feelings and she drops the A-bomb “I have a
boyfriend” then adds “…but I like you.”
The last part gives you some hope, the chances are 50/50. Your instinct tells you that this is just
another huddle meant to test your ‘seriousness.’ You continue being the nice
guy hoping to ‘overturn’ the other
guy. Shock happens when she introduces
you to her friends as a brother. She begins to tell you the troubles she is
having with her boyfriend and how much she loves him. Now let me tell you where
you are brother, you are in the friend-zone and diving into
the brother-zone. Nowhere close to where you wanted to be. Girls are crafty,
aren’t they?
Friend-zone is a place where ladies keep men whom they like
but would never date. It is where ladies find men who will do anything for them
without expecting anything in return. It’s also here where you find the most
patient guys. Guys who will stomach the love of their lives be with another guy
hoping that some day she will look his way. So is there hope of escaping this
place? Like, how do you transform yourself from being a brother to a lover?
For starters this is a painfully
slow process. The good thing is that
you have the odds on your side in that the girl is already comfortable with
you. Use this to you advantage. You already know who your main competitor is,
capitalize on his weak points. Be there giving her the emotional support she
needs. When you emotionally connect with your girl nothing can go wrong, at
least for now. Ok here we go:
Joke on the idea of
you being her man. Send those random signals, pass the message that you can
be a great lover. Take her to the world of imagination and let her imagine the
two of you becoming a pair. Discredit the main dude with sentences like “You
don’t deserve to be treated that way, you need someone who…”- yeah man that’s
you describing yourself.
Do more than the main
guy. Girls love attention. The right amount will drive her crazy. While the
main dude isn’t there you are there, get to her books and know what she likes.
Get her to do something interesting with you, something that will leave her either
smiling or getting emotional. Romantic movie, exciting game….hello am already
giving you too much.
Surprises. This one has always worked and will forever
work. A small present of what she likes will surely earn you points. Get her
something personal that will send the message that you are a thoughtful guy and
also brutally romantic. A good well thought gift will have her thinking of you
way long after the lights go off.
Be there. Okay
you are already there, remember you are in the friend zone which could be that
you are many in there. There is nothing sweeter than a girl falling for her
best friend. Be that guy she can always count on. Be the best friend and help
her fall for you.
Bring out the Alpha
guy in you. By now you are probably somewhere. When everything is showing
that you are headed to the right direction make the all important step. Do
whatever brings the best in you and ask her to be your girlfriend. Don’t be
afraid speak your heart out, after all this is the chance you have been waiting
for.
FromWhereIStand …. We hope she says a big YES. All the best.
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